Arguing with family (example) - seventeen-year-Martin performed the household chores, do the homework that was in charge and can finally get some rest. Therefore, the TV fell and fell down in his favorite chair. At that moment the door appears her mother, and her face reflects dissatisfaction. Martina! Instead of helping her sister homework, you're wasting time watching television. Nikada not do what you're told!
"Again it," muttered Martin, loud enough for the mother to hear.
Mom leaned over and said: "What did you say?"
"Nothing, Mom," replied Martin sigh and roll eyes.
Now Mom is really angry. "Do not talk to me like that! ' she says.
"And what is your tone?" Martin returns.
Relaxation is completed. It started another brawl.
Does that sound like the situation described is known?
Are you and your parents often argue?, If your answer is yes, think about it for a moment.
It can be at your behavior, coming home, housework, fun, dress, friends ...
Whatever the reason for an argument, because it is you and your parents certainly feel bad. Naravno, they could just keep quiet and pretend that you agree with everything your parents say.
It is easy to say: "The problem is my parents. They always something intellectualization". But consider the following: Can you change the behavior of other people, including your parents? In fact, you can only change yourself, if you are trying to do everything you can to reduce tension, the greater the likelihood that your parents stay calm and listen, and when there is something you want to say.
When you have the feeling that these parents are attacked, do not say the first thing that at the moment comes to mind.
For example, imagine that your mom says: "Why did not you put forward the trash? I do not do what you're told!", If suddenly you react, you might say, "Why do you keep bothering me?" But before you say something, think about this situation.
Try to figure out why your mom to say. Expression such as "always" and "never" usually should not be taken literally. However them it can be concluded that he feels the person who used them. On what would such expression may suggest? It could be that your mother angry because there is so much work in the house that it does not get myself to do .Perhaps only wants to satisfy himself that he can rely on you.
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